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Kennedy McSherry

How to Deal with Gender Bias Like the Boss You Are: A Guide for Female Leaders in Hospitality

Updated: Oct 21


Let’s be real for a second—if you’re a woman in hospitality, chances are you’ve faced gender bias more than once.


Whether it’s a condescending remark from a vendor, guests asking for the manager when you’re running the entire show, or being sidelined in decision-making, the struggle is real.


But you didn’t rise to this level by letting other people’s narrow-minded views define you.


This post is about recognizing, confronting, and ultimately crushing gender bias. At the same time, you lead confidently and continue thriving in an industry that needs more powerful women like you.


Let’s dive into how to deal with these challenges and stay on top.


Call It Out—Loudly and Proudly


The old advice used to be “keep your head down, don’t rock the boat.” Not anymore.


Gender bias thrives in silence, so it’s time to turn up the volume.


If someone’s treating you differently because of your gender—whether it’s a subtle comment or an outright dismissal of your authority—address it head-on.


Actionable Tip


Practice this phrase: “I’m not sure if you realize, but that comment comes off as [insert bias here]. Let’s focus on the task at hand.”


It’s direct, professional, and leaves no room for argument.


The more you call it out, the less power it holds over you (and others).


Bonus: It shows your team you’re not afraid to stand up for yourself and what’s right.


Own Your Expertise—You’re the Boss for a Reason


One of the most frustrating aspects of gender bias is when your expertise is questioned—especially when you know you’re the most qualified person in the room.


Imposter syndrome creeps in, and suddenly, you’re second-guessing yourself. Stop right there.


You’ve worked hard to get where you are, and it’s time to own that expertise unapologetically.


Actionable Tip:


The next time someone questions your decisions or knowledge, flip the script. Instead of getting defensive, respond with facts.


Example: “I’ve implemented this strategy at three different locations, and we saw a 15% boost in sales across the board. I’m confident it will work here too.”


Facts shut down bias faster than you can say “yes, chef.”


Build a Support Network of Strong Women


Hospitality can be a lonely place for female leaders, but it doesn’t have to be.


Surrounding yourself with other strong women who get what you’re going through is essential.


These are the people who will not only cheer you on but also give you real advice on how to navigate the biased situations we all face.


Actionable Tip:


Start or join a local or virtual women’s leadership group.


Host monthly coffee or wine meetups where you can swap war stories, strategies, and solutions.


When you feel like you’re not in this alone, it’s easier to push through the BS and stay focused on leading like the badass you are.


Demand the Respect You Deserve


There’s a fine line between assertive and aggressive—and who decided women should even have to walk that line?


The truth is, being assertive is one of the most effective ways to deal with bias.


It’s about clearly communicating what you want, need, and expect without feeling guilty for it.


If someone’s talking over you, dismissing your ideas, or not giving you credit, don’t let it slide. Speak up.


Actionable Tip:


At the start of meetings, set the tone. Try saying something like, “I’m here to ensure we leave with a clear action plan. I’ll take the lead on [insert key decision] since it falls within my expertise.”


By taking charge from the outset, you reduce the chances of being sidelined and show everyone that you’re the one calling the shots.


Create a Bias-Free Zone for Your Team


If you’ve been on the receiving end of gender bias, you know how damaging it can be to confidence and performance.


As a female leader, you’re in a unique position to change the game for your team by creating an inclusive, bias-free zone where everyone—especially other women—can thrive.


Your leadership can be the catalyst for change, and that’s a power worth wielding.


Actionable Tip:


Institute a no-tolerance policy for gender bias in your restaurant.


Offer training and regular team discussions on unconscious bias.


When your team sees that you’re serious about inclusivity, they’ll follow your lead, and your workplace will become a safer, more supportive environment for everyone.


Flip the Script on “Gender Roles”


The hospitality industry is notorious for assigning “traditional” gender roles—front of house for women, back of house for men, or assuming that women are more suited for “softer” managerial tasks.


Enough with that.


As a female leader, you have the chance to rewrite the playbook. Push yourself, your team, and your colleagues to see roles based on skill, not stereotypes.


Actionable Tip:


Challenge gender norms in your hiring and team development.


If you’ve got a female cook who’s been killing it in the kitchen, give her the path to becoming the next head chef.


Likewise, encourage men on your team to take on front-of-house roles if that’s where they shine.


Make decisions based on talent, not tradition.


Turn Bias into Fuel


Here’s the thing: gender bias isn’t going away overnight.


But instead of letting it hold you back, use it as fuel to push even harder, rise even higher, and prove every doubter wrong.


Every time you face bias, remember that you’re not just breaking down barriers for yourself—you’re making it easier for the women who will follow in your footsteps.


Actionable Tip:


Keep a journal of every time you face gender bias at work, and next to each entry, write down how you overcame it.


Over time, you’ll not only see your own growth, but you’ll also have a record of how you’re pushing past the limits people try to place on you.


Final Thoughts: Own Your Power


Gender bias is frustrating, draining, and downright infuriating—but it’s not stronger than you.


You have the power to lead with confidence, challenge the status quo, and demand the respect you’ve earned.


So the next time someone tries to undermine you because of your gender, stand tall, speak up, and let them know they’re messing with the wrong woman.


You’re here to lead, and you’re doing it your way—no apologies.

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